Life

Issues with walking…..

I have many pairs of fabulous shoes tucked away that I love, but did not cost me $400-$1500 a pair. Yes my most expensive pair is $60 sneakers, I laugh at this as I do not get to wear them but at the gym or errand running. I mean we just walk in these pieces of fashion however they have become the most important part of an outfit over the last few decades. Like shoes we put so much importance on the look of a man than on the connection and bond of a man. We put so much importance on the male that many do not stop to realize that the most important role in our lives started with a man.

We, as little girls, look to Daddy as our protector, our hero, our strength in which we rely on. He is the standard that we base ALL of our male connections on. So when he is absent, doesn’t live up to the fullest responsibility, or act as he should we ‘learn’ that way of love and understanding. We learn that we cannot depend nor rely on male figures to give us what we need.

Psychologists say that signs of abandonment {Father complex in psychology is a complex—a group of unconscious associations, or strong unconscious impulses—which specifically pertains to the image or archetype of the father. These impulses may be either positive (admiring and seeking out older father figures) or negative (distrusting or fearful)} & daddy issues {Most women fortunate enough to have a special relationship with their father wear that title as a badge of honor. … They say a woman has “daddy issues” when her behavior or mindset indicates that her father was either absent in her life completely, or physically present but emotionally unavailable} stem from inadequate male figure growing up.

Intrusive, debilitating anxiety.
Chronic feelings of insecurity.
Chronic depression.
Decreased self-esteem.
Feelings of loss of control over life.
Self-depreciation.
Isolation.
Obsessive thinking and intrusive thoughts about the abandonment.

“The classic conception of a woman with daddy issues is one who yearns for a protective, older male figure to fill the emotional void left by her inadequate father, but who makes a series of frustrating, self-defeating mistakes in her choice of partners and her behavior due to her complex psychological problems.” Does this make her unavailable? NO; it just means she needs a reason not to feel this way or think that way.

What makes these issues go away? Each woman is different and each situation is different.  One thing is for certain though ‘walking a mile in her shoes’ isn’t easy and takes a lot of time and patience to handle and care for this type of woman. Some might express what they need to feel better and a little less fearful, others might show signs of what she needs, and then you may get neither and will have to find a way to get her to open up to you.

You cannot judge a book by the cover just as you cannot judge a person by the chapter you walk in on. You do NOT know what this individual has been through nor how much self loathing they have because they fear they are not worthy. So next time you have a moment take a ‘walk’ in her shoes and see it from her side of things. Next time you feel like she is being annoying or has mental issues or is being clingy/needy remember either you or someone else/something has made her this way.

This is not the end for you Principessa you will overcome this with time and communication to someone you trust. You will shine bright and your walk will become amazing. Just you wait!

Fino ad allora continua a camminare! Until then just keep on walking!!

La vita è bella! Life is Beautiful!

Cheers to NEW thinking & NEW life!

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